10 Signs Assisted Living Might Be the Right Choice for You or Your Loved One


  1.  Are you falling down and having a difficult time getting up? Is your loved one covering up bruises from falling?

    Most assisted living facilities have alerting systems, so if a resident has an emergency in their own apartment, they can summon help. Also, staff is available 24/7 to assist with bathing, dressing, eating, and transferring. This limits chances of falls. Alderman Oaks also offers onsite physical, occupational and speech therapy to help promote independence and decrease the likelihood of falls.

  2. Have you or your loved one lost a lifelong friend or spouse? Do you or your loved one struggle with health problems that keep you from socializing?

    When not actively used, social skills can decline, causing anxiety when elders do go out among people. Depression can set in, furthering their reluctance to be socially active. In assisted living, even those who swore they’d hate it often find, once they adjust, that they again enjoy the company of peers. At Alderman Oaks, we provide multiple daily opportunities for socialization including activities like playing cards, listen to music, dancing, exercise, having coffee socials, going to community events and having people come in to entertain them.

  3. Is your loved one saying they have eaten, but you are noticing a weight loss problem and seeing food go bad in the refrigerator?

    If your loved one is home alone, many times they may simply decide to warm up something in the microwave or on the stove rather than preparing a nourishing meal. Then, they may eat in front of the TV for company. Many conditions, from depression to cancer, can cause weight loss, and conditions like diabetes and dementia can lead to weight gain. When someone does not remember eating, he or she may indulge in meals and snacks all day long. At Alderman Oaks, all meals for those in assisted living are provided and we offer many choices of food. We also monitor weight to be sure your loved one is getting the proper nourishment. However, one of the greatest comforts your loved one will experience is that they have company for their meals in our beautifully decorated dining rooms.

  4. Is your loved one able to take medications correctly?

    If you notice the medication bottles half filled are stacking up, or your loved one is constantly forgetting to refill prescriptions, they may need assistance with their medications. At Alderman Oaks, our trained staff can assist your loved one and help to oversee that their medications are taken correctly according to their physician orders.

  5. Have you noticed your loved ones forgetting to scoop the kitty’s litter box, pick up dog messes, or unattended plants?

    Watching your loved one’s carefully trimmed, beautifully maintained plants wither and die is a sign that their normal patterns are changing. Red flags could be: the cat litter box hasn’t been cleaned in a while, the dog has unusually long nails, or there are dead fish in the tank. At Alderman Oaks, we know the benefits of having a furry companion around and welcome pets as long as the resident can fully care for its feedings and grooming habits. Our staff can also gently remind your loved one to scoop the litter box, or feed their dog.

  6. Have you noticed your loved one wearing the same clothing every time you come for a visit?

    A close hug with your loved one can speak volumes about their personal hygiene habits. Forgetting to shower or change clothing shows possible memory trouble, depression, or other physical ailments. If they have been neglecting their appearance, like crisply ironed shirts or brushed hair, it may also mean they are no longer strong enough to lift the iron for the shirt or the brush for their hair. Alderman Oaks takes pride in caring for every assisted resident. We assist in bathing, laundry, and dressing. Your loved one will be lovingly watched over, and any change of normal habit will be noted and looked into to make sure there is no deeper problem.

  7. Do you struggle with keeping up with your house or yard work, or when you visit your loved one, is their home not as neat and clean as it used to be?

    As is often the case, an aging person will begin to find that keeping a home tidy is too much work. Spills that have not been cleaned up are a common sign of dementia. They show that the person lacks the follow-through to tidy up after an accident. They may have short-term memory, and after a few minutes forget they spilled something. Cobwebs, bathroom mold, and thick dust are other common signs. Physical and mental limitations could mean your loved one needs housekeeping. Alderman Oaks has the residents apartments cleaned weekly by housekeeping staff, and trash removed daily. Linens are also washed and changed weekly, and as needed throughout the week. We believe that no one deserves to live in filth and we strive to keep our community and each resident’s home as clean as possible.

  8. Do you or your loved one hear strange noises at night?

    Alderman Oaks is set up to provide a safe, comfortable environment for elders. With secured entrances and an alert team of staff members, our residents are not vulnerable to attack or burglary as they may be if they stay alone in their home. We also have cameras set up to show who enters and leaves the building. Alderman Oaks also have alerting systems so if residents have emergencies in their own apartments or rooms, they can summon help. The safety of our residents is one of our highest priorities.

  9. Are you or your loved one able to drive on their own or are they housebound?

    If you have been noticing new dents and dings on the car body of your loved one, this may be a sign of careless driving. It is worrisome if your loved one is forgetting to fasten their seatbelt. Even people who have mild dementia usually follow the basics of driving. We encourage those who can drive to bring their car to Alderman Oaks, but it is unnecessary. Alderman Oaks provides group transportation for shopping and to community events nearly every day. We also help arrange transportation for doctors’ appointments on Tuesdays & Thursdays. Every need your loved one may have is carefully thought out and taken care of so you both can rest easy.

  10. Do you or your loved one have stacks of unopened mail, bills and letters?

    Your loved one’s mail can offer a clue to how he or she is managing money, a common early warning sign of cognitive trouble. If there are snowdrifts of unopened mail in various places, this should raise concerns about how bills, insurance, and other matters are being managed. Everybody skips junk mail, but if hand addressed personal letters are being ignored, your loved one could be having severe mental issues. It is alarming if there is mail referring to overdue payments, overdrawn balances, recent accidents, or other concerning events.

    If you see several crisp magazines stacked up, the person may unknowingly have repeat-renewal subscriptions he or she doesn’t need. At Alderman Oaks, we offer help in managing day to day funds by keeping money at the front desk, so when your loved one wants to go to lunch, or on a shopping trip, they have pocket money. Since your loved ones bills are all rolled into one monthly payment, it is easier than ever to keep up with finances.

    If you answered yes to even a couple of these questions, your parent or loved one may be ready for an assisted living facility. Assisted Living Communities offer many services to help provide independence. Please call today (941) 955-9099 to learn more about how Assisted Living at Alderman Oaks can benefit you or your loved one.

  • Loving, caring ownership and staff
  • Services catering to different lifestyle needs
  • Active Resident Council and Committees
  • Located in "Heart" of Downtown Sarasota
  • Regular Spiritual Opportunities
  • Flexible Transportation
  • Exercises, health diets, and access to an on-site Wellness Center
  • Weekly Happy Hour with Live Entertainment (We dance!)
  • Just Around the Corner From the Friendship Center
  • Rental Only Apartments (No buy-in required)
  • Choice of studio, one bedroom, or two bedroom Floor Plans
  • Able to transition into Assisted Living if needed